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sallie reynolds's avatar

You manage so beautifully to get a whole biography, with side characters, in just a few lines. I feel as though I met your dad. That is, I recognize him, but probably no one knew him. And no one was ever what he wanted. What would a note tell us, us survivors of our father's suicides? "So there!"? "It's your fault!"? "Take that!"? "I didn't love you enough."?

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Jerry's avatar

A difficult read. But true for too many. My parents weren’t ready, 20 and 15. A guy home from the war and a child. Grandpa was quiet and distant, like Dad, like me. Mom grew into her role. Dad and went fishing and hunting. They never came to my sports games. Later, he would ask how my car was running. He cared. I held his hand when he died. I cried.

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Emily Sinagra's avatar

This is stunning, perfect, an arrow - and the photos ! « He didn’t leave a note ».

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C.S. Mee's avatar

Beautiful

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Abigail Thomas's avatar

Nicely done. You need say no more. But fucking wow.

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Nancy L. Glass's avatar

Sad to learn your dad wasn’t loving and accepting… you made me curious about the parts you left out…. Beautifully written, as others have said.

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Chris Roberts's avatar

Not sure what to say. So you remember some things, but they’re mostly impressions, or as you say, perspectives? In any case, I feel your pain and sadness … and you’re not alone. But you have moved on - congratulations. I learned just recently that my daughter was really lonely as a child … as a single parent, I was oblivious. I hope she can forgive me.

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Sharon Nolfi's avatar

A heartbreaking story, written with just the right words.💕

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Glenn Lippman's avatar

I agree with Susan. Sad and yet like hymn.

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Susan OBrien's avatar

Powerfully sad.

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Robert Bond's avatar

Very poignant. I, too had a distant relationship with my father.

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Jodi Sh. Doff's avatar

"Nietzsche said more than a century ago that there are no facts, only perspectives on facts." I needed that, as I struggle with facts and truth differing in my memory. "There are no facts, only perspectives on facts." I think I will tape that on the wall above my computer.

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Silas D. Gaud's avatar

Except, maybe for a trip to Golden’s Bridge?

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The Sweaty Generalist's avatar

Heartbreakingly beautiful. Thank you.

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